The Separia Library

Field notes on separation, divorce, and rebuilding.

Written by a family law attorney who has also lived it. Free to read. No account required.

After all these years — is this actually what you're considering?

If you're over 50 and questioning your marriage, the stakes are specific. Here's what a late-stage marriage examination actually requires.

9 min read · May 31, 2026

Before

You're holding everything together. And you're exhausted. Here's what to do with that.

If you're questioning your marriage but haven't told anyone, you're not alone. Here's what's actually happening and what to do with it.

8 min read · May 31, 2026

Before

You don't want to lose your family. That's not the same as wanting to stay in this marriage.

For fathers questioning their marriage, the fear of losing access to their children is real. Here's what that fear is, and isn't, based on.

8 min read · May 31, 2026

Before

You've known for a long time. So why are you still here?

Knowing your marriage is over and being able to leave are two different things. Here's what lives in the distance between them.

7 min read · May 31, 2026

Before

How to tell your people — and who to tell first

There is an order to this. Most people get it wrong. Here is the sequence that protects you and the people you love.

6 min read · May 11, 2026

Before

The financial conversation you have with yourself before you have it with anyone else

Before the meeting with the financial planner and before the conversation with your spouse, there is a quieter accounting to do. Here is the shape of it.

8 min read · April 27, 2026

Before

What actually happens in the first 30 days after you decide to leave

A 30-day field guide to the position you need to be in before the conversation, the filing, or the move. Written by a Florida family law attorney.

7 min read · April 13, 2026